Family Valued

María Calvo Charro

Professor in Administrative Law
at Universidad Carlos III
Spain

The Privilege of Being an “Unwanted” Child Summary

The text highlights the fundamental difference between desire and love. Desire is centripetal, self-focused, self-referential, and narcissistic, resulting in fleeting and inconsistent pleasure. Love, on the other hand, is centrifugal; it involves giving, thinking of others before oneself, and generates a solid sense of fulfilment and happiness. Desire, as Recalcati asserts, has a nihilistic quality that drives us from one object to another without lasting satisfaction.