Behind the apparent fear of commitment, there are young people who do want to love forever, but do not know how to achieve it. The lack of affective education, the romantic ideal and social pressure generate insecurity and fragile relationships. Educating in love from childhood – with reason, feeling and will – is key to living marriage as a free and full choice. Courtship should be a stage of realistic and honest discernment, not just preparation for a wedding. Loving is choosing the other as they are, and building together a faithful, lasting and profoundly human project.